I remember as a kid growing up, standing in the checkout line drooling over the candy rack, and begging my dad to buy me something. His usual response was, “NO.” That answer was not acceptable, so I would usually start to flail around bouncing and whining asking, “but whyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy? I want it!” His answer of course was, “because you don’t NEED it.” I used to hate that answer from my dad, but he was usually right.
Isn’t this usually the case with most things in life? The dreaded want vs. need. Here I am now almost 44 and I can still find myself at times kicking and whining when I don’t get what I want. This desire for wants also goes much deeper than just material desires. I believe certain experiences in life happen to us because we need them to. They most certainly can be things we don’t want by any means, but they are things that shape us and make us grow.
Realizing this now helps me to step back and look at each situation and try to understand if I really do need that shiny new toy. Or even harder, do I need to be experiencing hurt and sadness? Although the occasional temper tantrums still pop out from time to time, I know that in the end, having complete faith in God, exercising a discerning heart and simply saying “ok” when my Father in Heaven says, “No, you don’t need it,” usually works out in my favor when it is all said and done.
“And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Jesus Christ.” Philippians 4:19